honestly once you hit like 20+ years old there is absolutely no good reason for you to be fucking around with anyone under the age of 18 in any way that is not completely and utterly 100% platonic.
Being gay + a person of color is wild because on one hand you love your culture and your roots and your people but a lot of people around you are still openly homophobic and shitty or uneducated so you try and find solace in the LGBT+ community only to be faced with tons of microagressions and a lack of representation and you end up having to try and balance and exist between both things.